|Denial, Stuckness, Narcissism, Sleeping
Denial can be considered as a
naive person's inability to face
the harsh facts of life.
The health of any nation's soul depends on
the capacity of adults to face the
harsh facts of the time.
But the covering up of painful
emotions inside us and the blocking out
of fearful images coming from outside
have become in our country
the national and private style.
Denial is the first defense against change
and against the feeling of pain that
Denial says that there is no problem,
that things are not broken, stuck, or full of pain.
Denial of the problem keeps everything stuck
and ensures that there will be no cure.
Stuckness happens when change needs to
happen and we can't see it.
We are not ready for it
or we are afraid of it.
Narcissism is a condition in which
a person does not love himself.
Narcissism is a signal that the soul is
not being loved sufficiently.
The greater the narcissism,
the less love is being given.
This failure in love shows itself when a
person tries so hard to find
self-acceptance. We know instinctively
that someone who talks about himself all
the time must not have a very strong sense of self.
The narcissistic person becomes able
to love himself only when he learns
to love that self as an object.
This is not ego loving ego;
This is ego loving soul;
loving the face the soul presents.
We might say that the cure for
narcissism is to move from love of self,
which always has a hint of narcissism in it,
to love for one's deep soul.
For whoever desires to save his life will lose it,
but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.
For what profit is it to a man if he gains
the whole world, and loses his own soul?
Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?
The first half of life is spent mainly in finding out who we are
through seeing ourselves in our interaction with others.
You need both kinds of knowing--logical and intuitive.
Let the two come together. There were never meant to be apart.
My ego is stubborn--often impolite.
My desire--sensitive, impatient, and confused.
Please take messages from one to the other.
Encourage a conversation.
When I was young, I set out to change the world.
When I grew a little older, I perceived that this was too ambitious
so I set out to change my state.
This, too, I realized as I grew older was too ambitious,
so I set out to change my town.
When I realized I could not even do this,
I tried to change my family.
Now as an old man,
I know that I should have started by changing myself.
If I had started with myself,
then maybe I would have succeeded
in changing my family, the town, or even the state--
and who knows, maybe even the world.
The soul is so near that you can't see it!
But reach for it . . . don't be a jar
full of water, whose rim is always dry.
Don't be the rider who gallops all night
and never sees the horse that is beneath him.
If you throw dust at someone's head, nothing will happen.
If you throw water, nothing.
But combine them into a lump--
that marriage of water and dirt--
cracks open the head.
Afterwards, there are other marriages.